Online Trauma Therapy in Texas
Helping GenZ & Millennials heal from childhood abuse.
Dealing with trauma is incredibly challenging.
You put your trauma in a box and keep that boxed shut tight, but as much as you try, it still seeps out.
When people ask you about your childhood, your typical answer is “fine”. Maybe you don’t remember much, bits and pieces, but it is all quite hazy.
Or maybe you remember big, glaring, scary events that you do everything in your power to forget and you avoid those memories like the plague.
Trauma therapy & EMDR therapy can be helpful if you struggle with the following signs and symptoms.
Keep reading to learn more!
What are the signs & symptoms of trauma?
Vulnerability is a hard pass. People with a history of trauma have a harder time with being vulnerable.
Being vulnerable in any sort of capacity is a big no for you. You are going to pass on vulnerability at all costs. Talking about your feelings, nope. Telling someone what they did to upset you, that’s another hell no. Sitting in the uncertainty of things - the unknown, is a double hell no a thing? Vulnerability and you are not friends. Just like oil & water do not go together. Pineapple on pizza (Don’t judge but I am actually a fan.). You know the minute you start to feel vulnerable, it is not going to end well.
If you have a hard time understanding what vulnerability actually is. Check out this video by the queen of vulnerability Brené Brown.
Your inner voice is an asshole. Your thoughts and anxiety are closely tied together.
Let’s talk mistakes. What happens when you make one? What does your inner voice sound like? Is it pretty nice, calm, understanding and say things like “shit happens” or is it harsh, mean, downright cruel. Is there a worthlessness feeling you can never quite shake no matter how many self-love books you read or affirmations you practice? You can say you are worthy of love and belonging, but you do not know if you truly actually believe it.
My best resource and what I teach extensively with my clients who struggle with their inner critic is how to quiet it through self compassion. Learn from the creator of self-compassion herself here.
Relationships are tricky. Complex PTSD can really mess this up. You desperately want connection but at the same time, it terrifies you.
Your struggles with vulnerability bleed into your ability to trust others. You wish you could trust people more, but every time you try, you just end up getting hurt. It's like you are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Even if you are in a healthy relationship, you wonder if you can completely trust your partner. You may even hide parts of yourself because you are terrified if you share all of the “ugly” parts of you, your past trauma, your messy baggage, it will be too much, and they will leave you. You might wonder if you will ever be able to have a healthy relationship without all this baggage from your past weighing you down. You begin to tell yourself, "Maybe I am just not a relationships person."
Check out “12 signs a past trauma may be affecting your relationship” here. And more about working with me using trauma therapy.
Releasing control is a nightmare. Trauma therapy can help you feel safe when releasing control bit by bit.
And let’s not forget one of your absolute favorite things: always being in control. Trust me, as a recovering control freak myself, who let’s be honest, still has lots and lots of moments of relapse (don’t talk to my husband), this one is a doozy. For you, releasing control when it comes to all the things is almost impossible. Letting someone load the dishwasher who puts the forks down instead of up (who the hell does this?!). What about handing over the reins for someone else to plan your birthday party or a trip. Not going to happen. You need to have your hands in all the gritty details. You want others to step up and help but when they do, you are disappointed or annoyed because they didn't do it the right way.
If you are wondering why it is so hard for you to release control and how this relates to trauma check out this helpful article here on control as a trauma response. Find out more on what it is like working with me to help you release some control by using trauma therapy & EMDR therapy.
Boundaries are cool, in theory. Growing up with emotional neglect can make setting boundaries as an adult very difficult.
With relationships comes your struggles with boundaries. Saying no isn’t really a big part of your vocabulary. From the small things, like when your partner asks, “do you want to eat sushi tonight” and you say “sure” even though you hate sushi to the big things like when your boss keeps piling on the work because you are doing such a good job (insert eyeroll emoji here) but not raising your pay. The thought of *gasp* putting yourself first sends you into a tail spin and you automatically put that into the selfish category. You pride yourself on being selfless and having no needs. When you do finally get to a point where you are overwhelmed, burnout, and resentful instead of having a conversation you either do one of three things: shutdown, lash out, or passively aggressively throw out comments hoping the other person will get your hint.
Follow my favorite favorite person for all things boundaries here! And get her highly recommended book and workbook on boundaries here.
Calm isn't a state you access often, if ever. EMDR therapy is such a good option to help people feel safe while things are calm, something your nervous system isn’t used to.
Which finally leads me to your anxiety which comes in the form of overthinking & hypervigilance. If they were handing out awards for who could spiral the fastest to worst case scenario, you, my friend, would be a gold medalist. It takes you .5 seconds to go from cough to cancer. When other people talk about being calm, you can’t relate. What does that even feel like, you have no idea? You feel anxious most of the time, on edge, just waiting for the other shoe to drop. When you lay your head on your pillow at night, your brain spins and spins and spins and won’t shut off. In fact, most of the day, you feel like your brain never shuts off.
If you struggle with feeling calm in your body all the time and want to learn more about working with me on your anxiety check out my online anxiety treatment page.
Check out this video of trauma expert, Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk, talking about how trauma affects the body. Watch here!
If you are reading this and thinking damn, she is calling me out, you’ve come to the right place.
Online trauma therapy can help.
Hi, I’m Addie.
My passion, and, the one thing that makes me jump out of bed in the morning, is supporting GenZ & Millennials work through past trauma. Whether it is with EMDR therapy (my personal favorite) or any of the other trauma treatment I have studied.
I chose the name Everyday Bravery because I want my clients to know I believe in them, I hold hope for them even when they can’t see it themselves, and the mere fact they are willing to sit across from a stranger and speak their most intimate truth is one of purest forms of everyday bravery I get the privilege of witnessing all the time.
Start healing from childhood trauma so you can:
You can get to a point where you make a mistake and it isn’t the end of the world.
Or you know yourself so well and trust your judgment so much, the inkling of a red flag from someone has you running instead of making excuses for them.
You can set boundaries like the confident baddie you are.
You can know you are worthy of love and belonging, right now. As is. You love yourself period. Not when xyz but now.
You can feel calm in your body. You can sit around and rest and not feel like you are being lazy or you aren’t being productive enough.
You can handle uncomfortable & vulnerable feelings and know when you are being triggered and most importantly know what to do about them.
You can have a healthy relationship with food, sex, online shopping, wine, or any other numbing behavior you use now.
You have a tribe of life-giving people around you where you feel loved, supported, and seen.
You can get off that hamster wheel of having to please others, be perfect, or perform your tricks so others will ooh and awe, and be okay with being you, without the mask.
You can stop the overthinking, going to worst case scenario, and lying in bed at night thinking about your endless to do list, and learn how to manage your anxiety & calm your mind and your body.
Trauma therapy can help you live a peaceful & content life.
A future filled with hope and possibility.
GenZ & Millennials who have worked with me have said things like:
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"I can actually feel my feelings. Before therapy, I had no idea what that meant, much less felt like.""
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"I'm experiencing moments of joy and gratitude that I haven't felt in years. It's incredible to feel calm in my body & mind."
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"I'm starting to trust myself more and more each day. And my inner voice is no longer such an asshole."
Not delulu, straight facts.
There is hope for you.
You deserve to live a life where trauma, old stuff, your past, doesn’t haunt you constantly and show up in your relationships, your self-worth, or your ability to live your freaking beautiful messy imperfect life.
Online trauma therapy could be a game changer for you.
Remember trauma is never every your fault but healing is your responsibility.
The harsh truth of healing from childhood trauma.
Honestly, I hate that quote. It is painfully true and its bullshit. You did nothing to deserve the hand you were dealt, yet you have to clean it up. It’s not your mess! I get it. It’s not fair AND it doesn’t make it any less true. We can hold both things: unfair & true.
You have choices now.
The one thing I like to tell my clients is you did nothing to deserve this and you had no power as a kid to do anything about it, but, now you do.
This is one of the best things about being an adult. You can do something about it. You have the ability to heal, to work through your trauma, to know your trauma doesn’t define you but is part of you.
Hold onto hope at all costs.
I know this entails something you are probably scared of, hope. You may not believe in yourself right now. I do. I know it sounds a bit much because I don’t know you yet, but it is absolutely true. I wouldn’t be in this profession if I wasn’t a stage five clinger when it comes to hope.
Ready to invest in healing from your childhood trauma?
If you are ready to invest in yourself, please reach out today. I am here to walk with you on your journey to working through your past trauma. I can’t wait to meet you!
